Life is Always Brighter When You Don’t Know What You’re Doing

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Life is Always Brighter When You Don’t Know What You’re Doing

Life is a state of experiencing. Every ebb and flow is living. Sometimes it’s up, sometimes it’s down. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad. All along the way, we just want to be happy.

There is no doubt life can be difficult. Our mind constantly takes us in different directions. Will this make me happy?, Should I eat this? Should I work here? Should I talk to her or him?

We often think in circles and live in circles, not feeling like we are getting anywhere. And over time we begin to ask ourselves: Is this even working?

Yet we must have this experience to become open to something new. And we must ask this question to see where it takes us. When we step outside of own box (one that has been created by years of habit and ritual) we begin asking the deeper questions needed to get the deeper responses we are searching for.

Life can be confusing. But only when you realize that you don’t know what you’re doing can the mind become open. It drops its agenda of trying to get from point A to point B and you arrive back in the present moment once again. And when you do, you begin to see everything around and within you that you were previously missing. You begin to see the things that you never saw when you were all up in your head, scheming and planning for some future success that might never come. A world of possibilities opens up to you when you say: I don’t know  and then simply allow it to take you.

Real change becomes possible because you are open.

When you become open to ‘not knowing’ the scheming mind releases its stranglehold on you and you become open to experiencing more of you and the world right now. It’s a fascinating place that is joyful, peaceful and meaningful, where life gets a lot brighter.

About the Author:

Calgary psychologist and relationship expert, Heron Free, M.Ed., R.Psych is an author and outside of the box thinker in the fields of personal growth and change. He is the author of The Relationship Code and The Infinite Relationship.

2 Comments

  1. Teresah March 18, 2013 at 8:45 am - Reply

    Well this article is just what I needed this morning. Thank you for writing it. I am in a cycle of not knowing again, and I feel a pressure to make big life decisions, and after reading this I realize that the underlying energy behind this is control and fear. Control of making the right decisions to make my life happy and fulfilling; fear that I will not know what decision to make and when I do, will I have the motivation to follow through. But as I sit here there is a sadness that comes up. I feel sad …humm now I have to think of why. When I was married and happily working on my land, I was content and satisfied. Not in search of anything. Not needing more than I had. Now I am in a cycle of searching. The pressure I feel from it, and from doing it alone is making me sad. What I need is a break or rest until I feel inspired to take action or make a decision. I have just left my nest 2 1/2 weeks ago…that in itself is a big decision and change. I was putting pressure on myself to now know exactly what step to take next. I need to celebrate my courage, rest and enjoy the view before I climb the next hill. thank you Heron for continuing to help me on my journey. – Teresah

    • heron March 18, 2013 at 3:09 pm - Reply

      Your welcome Teresah 🙂
      Love Heron… And enjoy the view xo 🙂

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