Marriage and Couples Therapy

Looking to Save or Help Your Marriage (or Relationship)?

 

Are you worried that your relationship isn’t going the way you hoped it would? Have you tried everything with your partner but he (or she) just doesn’t seem to get it? Do you keep fighting about the same thing over and over again and nothing ever seems to get resolved.
 

If you feel less connected to your partner, if you feel stuck or find that the intimacy with your partner has been lost, then you may benefit from couples therapy.
 

Marital therapy (aka couples therapy) is designed to increase communication with your partner and help the two of you reconnect once again. It is also designed to recreate a vision of how the two of you can be together long-term.

 

Learning to communicate with your partner, comfort each other, as well as get your own needs met is key to long-term success in any relationship. 
 

If your arguments and discussions never seem to go anywhere, if you are feeling  frustrated or uncertain about your future together then it’s time to get your relationship back on track with couples therapy.

What Stage of Couples Therapy Might You Be In?

Stage 1: A High Conflict Situation

30% of My Couples

Couples in this stage, fight, attack and emotionally ramp up very quickly. Or they may actively ignore their partner for days on end. They don’t feel emotionally safe, nor feel like they can open up and share their concerns with their partner. 

 

Couples are quicker to use sarcasm, deflection, anger and blame to express their discontent. In some cases, this can also include occasional hitting, pushing and slapping (with no pattern of domestic violence).

 

While the couple may be in a lot of pain, they typically won’t express it that way. However, in this stage couples often feel very hurt and discouraged about their situation as things never seem to change.

 

Partner’s Needs: Empathy, Understanding, Open Communication and Forgiveness

 

Key Indicator of Success: High Motivation to Change

 

Stage 2: Opening of the Heart

60% of My Couples

Couples in this stage tend to come in and say they still love their partner but are no longer feeling the spark and excitement they once felt. There may be a noticeable decrease is sexual intimacy, communication or just feeling distant. They still work well together but aren’t necessarily feeling super happy with their current relationship situation.

 

This group has typically tried several things on their own which haven’t worked out so they are now seeking professional advice. Couples in this group have often been together for quite sometime (e.g., three to ten years) but priorities like work, raising their kids, and life in general have gotten in the way of them focusing on their relationship.

 

Partner’s Needs: Vulnerability, Truthfulness, Feeling Heard, and Being Present for Them

 

Key Indicator of Success: Open to Learning and Trying New Things

 

Stage 3: Expression of Self

10% of My Couples

Couples in this stage have already moved mostly through the first two stages of relationship healing either by themselves or with my help. They are actively practicing self-love and self-care and truly appreciate and get excited when their partner is around.


Long-term success at this stage requires both partners to begin to focus much more on simply being themselves and sharing their dreams, thoughts and goals with their partner. 

 

They have a personal identity that is both separate from their partner’s and a part of it. They feel very comfortable and open around each other, expressing their vulnerabilities and hurts with honesty and candor. Their partner actively loves and supports them.

 

Partner’s Needs: Genuineness, Transparency, Playfulness and Love


Key Indicator of Success: A Desire for Increased Joy and Contentment

 

All couples will have a foot or a hand in all three stages, but their overall tendency will be to remain in one of the three.

 

As all couples are unique, Heron doesn’t use a linear approach to counselling to help couples heal and reconnect.  The 3-Stage Model is simply a guide to help you get a sense of where you might be at and how you might move forward with your partner. If you’re interested in more, book in for a free consultation with Heron today.

Learn the Six Aspects of a Relationship Mastery with Heron Free, M.Ed.

About Heron Free, M.Ed., Dipl. FLE

Heron Free, M.Ed., B.A. Psych., Dip. FLE is a clinical therapist, relationship dynamics expert, and family life educator.

 

He has helped clients with marriage and relationship issues, life stress, anxiety and depression for over 20 years in his private practice. His specialty is love-based relationships, and how you can better access them, and bring them more fully into your life.

 

Heron is also the author of The Relationship Code: Ten Secrets to a Successful Relationship and has appeared on Global TV News and Shaw TV as an expert in the fields of relationships and life stress.

 

Heron obtained his Master of Education in Counseling Psychology at McGill University in 1996. He also holds a Post-Graduate Diploma in Human Relations and Family Life Education, and a Bachelors of Arts in Psychology from the University of Calgary. He is a master therapist in integrative psychotherapy.

No one’s first choice is to seek out therapy but sometimes seeking out a trained therapist who helps you see things differently, communicate with your partner more effectively, or just feel more positive about your situation can be a great choice.

 

My name is Heron Free, M.Ed., and for the last 20 years I have been working with people just like you, saving their relationships, helping them deal with work and life stress, and essentially helping people tackle whatever life throws.

 

We sometimes think that we should be able to handle everything ourselves, that if we are tough enough or motivated enough we can move through anything. Sometimes you can. And sometimes you can not. But why not work with someone who makes the process much easier either way?

 

I can guarantee I have already helped someone like you, who most likely, was dealing with a very similar (if not the exact same) issue you are dealing with.  So give me a call or book in online and let’s get started on helping you move through it.

I am also a hopeless romantic, and believe all relationships have the possibility of reaching deep levels of love and personal contentment, if we have the time and personal inclination to put in the work. 

I offer a small boutique-style counselling service that is highly personalized and very effective at meeting my client’s needs. Most couples and individuals experience results in 1/3 or 1/2 the time as compared to other therapists.

 

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Heron Free, M.Ed. 

 

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